What is "Human Courtship"?
An introduction to Romantic Dynamics™
Romantic Dynamics™ is a model of human courtship that is taught as a course on audio, and video, as a fourteen-volume hardbound book series, and in live classes, in 3 phases and nine total steps to the process.
The “steps of human courtship” actually take a special order that occurs in three phases, large narratives which mark our progress in three major ways of relating to each other, and which may feel like watching the three acts of a rich drama of a play.
These may also feel like a beginning, middle, and end of a story, except in a romance meant to last, the story doesn’t end. It just circles back to the beginning for another pass, and a way of becoming ever closer, more intimate, and more meaningful to each other, as life cycles on to the next round of psychological growth. We believe that what we learn in interpersonal relationships – whether each one continues or ends – is the best possible source of personal growth and knowledge of yourself.
These three “acts” or “phases” of romance also correlate with the three major areas or functions of the human brain, even while marking ever more mature and complex psychological growth for the individuals, separately, and as partners in a couple.
We can label these three modes of being with each other – like three acts of a play – as three types of attraction: Sexual, Emotional, and Intellectual Attraction, correlating with the “reptilian,” “mammalian,” and “higher brained” brain functions talked about by evolutionary psychologists.
Each of these three phases will be further divided into three “steps” of romance in each.
With Sexual Attraction coming first, and similar to common terms like, “physical attraction,” “lust,” “desire,” and even, “falling in love.” The language of communication here is largely nonverbal, in body language, the eyes, and your own deep sensations felt in response to the presence of another interesting person.
After this first attraction develops, the second kind of attraction is next, with Emotional Attraction bearing resemblance to “friendship,” “happiness,” “togetherness,” “emotional compatibility,” “personality matching,” and “boyfriend-girlfriend” exclusivity. It is exclusive dating, whose prime description is “being happy with each other.” The language of communication is both physical, and in sound, vocal tone, the five senses and the emotions.
The third, and final phase of romance sees the couple discover a kind of teamwork which naturally leads to success in achieving goals together, like successful business partners. It is called Intellectual Attraction, and has similar descriptions such as “partnership,” “teamwork,” and “commitment,” and carries both lasting intimacy and durability to the couple’s loyalty, a joining of goals that is a natural outgrowth of their intellectual compatibility.
It implies great conversation and problem-solving, but cannot be reached romantically without first developing the first two phases of courtship. Its hallmark is an uncanny ability to set goals and achieve them better and with more joy, happiness, and cohesion than either partner could muster on their own.” The language is verbal, emotional, and nonverbal too – but with as much detailed description as possible, and carrying the meaning of all three types of attraction, leading to partnership, success at our goals, and the happiness and passion that form the foundation underneath that.
Each of the three phases is divided into three smaller steps, as I’ve indicated, making the following nine total steps of courtship, divided into twenty-four more lessons of your course.
Let’s cover these nine “steps” to courtship, in brief (for members):